Imaginary Relationships

       Ever catch yourself having an imaginary conversation with someone?  Maybe, you're rehearsing.  Maybe, just daydreaming.

       To some extent, every relationship – especially every relationship in its early stages – is an imaginary one.  We carry in our imaginations a picture of each other, a story we create – a story that is sparse, sometimes, on actual experience of each other and heavy on projection from within ourselves.  For example, the story I carry about you may say more about me, my desires or my fears, than it does about you.

       While I'm not likely to stop creating stories about you, I can try not to get too attached to them.  I can keep my feet on the ground and my eyes, ears and heart engaged with you – ready to experience you as you are, ready to discard or revise my story as you unfold in the reality of the moment. 

        Imagination is a wonderful gift.  It brings beauty to life.  Getting to know someone means getting real.  That's beautiful, too.

Love's Surprise

Looking for an opportunity to heal?

Try having an intimate relationship.

Rest assured –

It will unearth any wound you have.

Disconcerting?  Perhaps.

  Has something gone awry?

 Have you made a big mistake?

 Is this some cruel joke?

Not to worry. 

Just relationship doing its thing: 

Inviting us to face ourselves,

Inviting us to grow.

Maybe not what we signed up for,

But richer in the end. 

Unexpected bounty -

Love's surprise.

Two Truths

Nothing's perfect.

Everything's perfect.

Both truths humble.

Both give comfort.

Sometimes I forget one.

Sometimes, the other.

Hold both.

Remember as needed.